4 Week interactive CLASS with Attorneys and Help me help momma founders, Doug jones & Cynthia orlicek jones
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How To Help Your Declining Parent
Get The Care They Need
While Preserving A Quality Of Life For Them And You
Hosted by Caregiver Experts, Doug & Cindy
  • Previous Caregivers for their own "Mommas"
  • Elder Law Attorneys for over 30 years
  • Authors of "Help Me Help Momma: When I Can't Be There Myself" AND "Help Me Help Momma: The Mom Centered Family Meeting".
  • Experts in Caregiver Planning with thousands of email subscribers and hundreds of thousands of social media followers  
Caregiver Secrets You'll Learn From This Class
What to do when one of your parents experiences a sudden decline in health
How to balance a 9 - 5 job, your own family AND caring for your declining parent
Learn the four steps you can take to develop a sudden decline plan

From the desk of Doug and Cindy at Help Me Help Momma,

We're going to show you how to get stability without stress for the benefit of your declining parent and for you. It's really interesting because people have been caring for their aging parents the same way for hundreds of years. Everyone has a process that they go through and it's important that we learn this process because if we learn it, and we use it, we're going to be able to do a better job planning for the care of our cognitively or physically declining parents. And we're going to do it in a way that’s more rewarding and free of the excess stress that normally is part and parcel of family caregiving experiences. And that's really a huge deal because helping a declining parent should be rewarding, not stressful and overwhelming.  

So, here's the thing - understanding where your parents are on the Eldercare Journey and understanding the appropriate actions to take at each stage of the process can make a huge difference in the quality of their life and your life as well. And it's really simple - there are three BIG THINGS to consider when helping to establish stability in the Eldercare Journey of a declining parent: The three elements are: Mom, Money and ME. Specifically: (1) Mom’s (or family preferences) (2), Proper use of Mom’s money to sustain her and (3) Me Issues, or self care for the Family Caregiver (which may be you!). 

Mom’s Preference Example

So let me give you an example of Mom’s preferences. Let's say that your Mom fell and broke a hip. Our first priority is getting the situation stabilized as quickly as possible. After her hospital stay, her doctor suggested that she receive rehab in a local rehab facility, but Mom wants to go home. We talk to the doctor, look at the available care options and look at her finances to determine whether going home is a workable option for Mom. If it is, stability in this family unit may be achieved by crafting a Recovery Plan for Mom at home.

Money Example

Now Let's talk about the money part in another example. Let's say your Dad’s Alzheimer’s is suddenly worse. So if there is any way of helping stabilize his situation that’s a priority. Your next step may be to consider all of the care options where your Dad can receive the best possible care. As Dad’s cognitive state continues to spiral downward, the cost of care often spirals up - so the issue of money or funding this care has to be figured out quickly. He may have been able to receive care at home, but now that his Alzheimer’s has advanced to another level, he will need much more care to remain at home. Is there a money plan in place to make this happen? Does Dad have sufficient assets to pay for his care; sufficient resources to sell to finance the care OR should the family consider seeking Medicaid assistance to help pay for his care in a skilled care facility?

ME Example

I'll give you one more example regarding the ‘Me’ part of the equation. Dad is declining and Mom is taking care of him at home. Mom has been caring for Dad for so long that it has impacted her health. Since your Mom has health issues of her own, you’ve been stepping in to help as well. As Dad’s health gets worse, it’s critical to help Mom quickly stabilize the situation so that both she and your Dad get the care they need. You think that it’s time to consider other care options for Dad - so understanding the options and choosing the most appropriate level for Dad at this point in time is critical. Self care for Mom is now just as high a priority as providing care for Dad. If things don’t change, you know it won’t be long before you have to step in full time and help them both, but you’re just not sure how you’ll find the time between a job, spouse, kids, grandkids, community or church commitments, and other various important responsibilities and relationships.

And so, if you think about this, all three of these elements, Mom, Money and Me are factors in most eldercare situations where a parent is in cognitive or physical decline.

The 3 Discussions

So the question becomes, well, how do we actually address these issues and come up with an effective Going Forward Plan for Mom and it's really, really simple. The whole process can be described in the context of The 3 Discussions.

The Mom Discussion

Before a proper Going Forward Plan can be crafted for a declining parent, an adult child must first know that they are taking actions in sync with their parent’s wishes. This story is referred to as the Mom Discussion. Especially in cases where a parent suffers a sudden decline in health, there is very little time or opportunity to have a discussion as to the type of care that a parent would want on a going forward basis. Sometimes having this discussion is impossible due to the severity of the cognitive or physical impairment. The key is to have this discussion early in the process, before the decline happens. However, if your parent has suffered a sudden decline and there is no opportunity to have this discussion, then the discussion may be between you and your siblings or professional advisors.

The Money Discussion

This is the second discussion to have in the event of a sudden decline in a parent’s health. Once a determination is made of the type of care that is needed by the parent on an ongoing basis, it is important to discuss how this care will be funded. Sometimes the care will be paid for out of cash on hand; or by liquidating assets, or by government assistance or by other payment options. It’s important to know the best way to maximize and protect resources while ensuring that your parent has the best care possible.

The Me Discussion

This is the third discussion and is really all about what happens in the life of the primary Family Caregiver or Care Manager who is attempting to ensure that their beloved declining parent receives the best care possible while (at the same time) preserving their own quality of life. Most adult “kids” have a family of their own with children and grandchildren... activities that demand their time. Additionally, many of these adult children have demanding jobs, businesses or professions that demand a lot of time and mental clarity. As much as the adult kids love their parents, many find it almost impossible to tend to their plate that was already running over, while making additional room for the caregiving needs of their parent. This dilemma can create a lot of stress, a lot of guilt and a feeling of being overwhelmed. If not managed properly, this can result in serious health and/or family issues for these caregiver adult children.

The ‘Me’ Discussion this discussion may just be a “discussion” that you have with yourself when you are sorting out what you are available and able to do to help. OR your declining Mom may have several “Me’s” (probably your siblings) all with the same issues. In this case, the group may have a Mom Centered Family Meeting to determine what needs to be done and divide the caregiving tasks among all adult children who are willing and able to help.

If any of the above situations resonate with you and you want to utilize the Stability Without Stress system in your life, then click the button below and join us in this interactive course. 

Stability Without Stress

Because we have been asked so many times, we finally decided that we would do what we have never done before - present an online training series -- LIVE! Starting January 14, 2021, we are offering an interactive deep dive training that we have entitled Stability Without Stress. This Course will be offered LIVE over a period of 4 weeks.
We will meet once a week via Zoom* where we will present that week’s course content and will answer your questions live during the call. We will also have “office hours” each week via Zoom (or phone) where during a set one hour time slot, you can ask any questions that you were not able to ask during the course. AND if you can’t virtually attend the course live, we will give you a website where you can watch the replays at your convenience. During the term of this course we will be asking you questions as well. We know that COVID-19 has changed everything.
*Zoom Is Free To Download And Use On iPhone, Android, PC, Mac, etc
The focus of this course is to stabilize things at this point in your Caregiver Journey.

Stabilize your elderly parent’s situation because they have declined physically or cognitively and you are worried that they...

  • are not taking their medications as they should be
  • ​are not eating right or getting enough nourishment
  • are not drinking enough liquid... getting dehydrated​
  • ​will fall and no one will know it for 24 hours
  • ​are not taking care of their personal hygiene and their skin will break down, causing more issues
  • walk out the door to get the mail and the door locks behind them….

Stabilize your situation because everything listed above that happens to your parent worries you

Just think of all the things about their situation, health or environment that aren’t listed above that worry you. The more you know about what to expect at each stage of your Caregiver Journey, the better you will be able to Plan for what may come. Utilizing the tools, resources, knowledge and experiences provided during this course, you will be better prepared to respond to the needs of your declining parent. When you are prepared, you will be less stressed and more stabilized in your Caregiver Journey.
NOTE: This course is 4 weeks long and will cover how to stabilize things for your aging parent and how to stabilize things for you, the Caregiver. I will not cover every aspect of what could be a ten (10) year Caregiver Journey nor how to create a comprehensive Going Forward Plan involving all of your family members…… That, obviously, would take more than 4 weeks to cover. In this short 4 week course, we want to help you Stabilize your current situation and reduce your stress.
Many people can’t get out of the house. Many others are reluctant to bring in outside caregivers for fear of spreading the virus to their Loved Ones. There are so many issues now that didn’t exist last year at this time. As a result of all these unwelcome changes, many families have had to drastically change the way they interact with and provide assistance to their declining parents. We want to know what changes you have made in the last year and what things you are struggling with. We want your input and we want to address your concerns. The whole purpose of this course is to discuss the issues and help to come up with some solutions!

Why are we doing this?

This is a good question that we have asked ourselves many times. As you can imagine, to commit to something like this takes a ton of time, which is time we really don’t have. We are carving out time away from our Elder Law Practice to make this happen.  

We are only doing this because we have received so many questions over the years about these issues AND because we see the massive pain and hurt that is experienced by all of the adult children of declining parents. You want so much to help them, but you may not know where to start. You want to help but don’t know how to get past the roadblocks.

Let’s use this course to help you get past these roadblocks. It is to help you gain stability in your lives and in the lives of your parents…... AND to get that stability while minimizing the stress that is felt by you and by your aging parents. We hope you will join us in the 4 week interactive course, which will start on January 14th at NOON CST. 

Weekly Zoom Call

Each week we are offering a Zoom call where Doug & Cindy will appear live on camera to answer your questions and discuss issues. This Zoom call will be an additional hour each week that will be offered outside of the class and will be time available for any class participant to ask questions to be discussed by us and other caregiver participants in the room. This call will last for an hour each week during the 4 week term of the class. You do not have to participate in these outside-of-class Q&A Zoom calls, but are welcome to do so. 

If you don't have a laptop computer you can join us by phone. If you want to login or call in and just listen without asking questions you can also do that. The sessions will be recorded so if you can't attend the Q&A session live, you can listen to the session later in the day. Also if you have questions that you could not ask live, you can type them in chat and we will take them up during the next scheduled Q&A call. 

Cost of Class AND Guarantee

Yes, there is a fee for the class ($97) but given the amount of personal attention and content covered, this is an incredible value. OUR PROMISE to you is this: You can sit through the entire 4 week course, take notes and ask questions. Then at the end of the course, if you determine that it was not worth the $97 investment, just let us know and we will return your money with no questions asked. It couldn’t get much fairer than that!

Given the amount of time we have put into developing this course, the amount of interaction we expect and the fact that we are offering a weekly Zoom call where we answer questions, we don’t anticipate that anyone would think that they had not received 10X value. But we want to take all of the fear of risk and doubt off your shoulders - so now you have no reason NOT to attend.

How to Join Us

Just click the button below. We will send an email with instructions as to how to log in or call in. If you haven’t used Zoom, we’ll walk you through the process. It’s pretty easy! You can use Zoom for free on iPhone, Android, PC, Mac, etc. Also, if you want to call in you can do that instead - we’ll be sending all this information to you.
So, click the button below and join us
We look forward to seeing you in the class.
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